Manipulacija je tehnika utjecanja na ljude na prikriven način kako bi se postigao željeni cilj te može biti česta u nezdravim vezama, bilo romantičnim ili obiteljskim. Dakle, kada partneri ili partnerice pokušavaju manipulirati drugom osobom, skrivaju svoje prave namjere, pokušavajući ih navesti da učine ono što žele, bez njihovog potpunog razumijevanja ili informiranog pristanka.
Nažalost, manipulaciju ponekad može biti teško prepoznati. Stoga je psihologinja dr. Julie Smith izdvojila ponašanja koja ukazuju na to da partner ili partnerica pokušavaju manipulirati vama.
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@drjulie 👉Look out for the last one. It’s a common trap. For those who find themselves wanting to leave a relationship and blaming themselves for finding it hard to break away, it’s never been as easy as you tell yourself it should be. If your partner is using any combination of these manipulations, you will be more isolated, vulnerable, and confused about how best to proceed. Not because there is anything wrong with you, but because that is the effect these behaviours have on most people. Finding some form of support outside of the relationship is crucial. It helps you to get a wider perspective on the relationship. Doing that on your own is not easy. That person might be a trusted friend or family member or a professional. Learning about these types of behaviour can help you to spot them while they are happening and to see them for what they are. Feel free to share if you feel it could help someone ❤️ 👉More from me in my million copy bestselling book - Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before? (Currently -50% see link in bio). Filled with insights from therapy about how to deal with real life problems. Available in over 40 languages.
♬ original sound - Dr Julie | Psychologist